My intensity is my super power. Maybe it’s yours?
I see you…
Painting the world in bold colors when everyone else paints in pastels. You feel things deeper than most, absorbing the energy of everything around you. Sounds are loud, colors are bright, and everything seems like too much. Sometimes you may even wonder if you are too much.
I’ve been there. I understand what it means to live from a place of extreme intensity. Most of my life, I’ve been told I’m “too intense, too much, too…everything.” I’ve struggled to manage my intense nature, been caught in the throes of doubt, guilt, and shame, explored dark shadows of my inner world.
There were many times I wanted to change my nature, not be the intense person that I am. I tried to hide my gifts, walk away from my creative self, be someone different.
Maybe you’ve done the same thing.
But here’s the thing – you can’t walk away from you. And why would you want to?
Our intense nature fuels our creative passions, allowing for greater inspiration, deeper connection, and more meaningful transformation.
Sure, living an authentic life isn’t easy. Embracing my intense nature as a strength was something I had to learn. But once that happens, once you redefine your normal and live in congruence with the fire and passion of your intensities, you can align with your purpose and create more meaning for yourself and the planet.
My story. . .
As a young child, I was intense and creative. I spent my days in my head, conjuring up stories filled with heroes and villains. I wondered about the world, people, and life. Things haven’t changed too much! I still spend much of my day wondering. As a survivor of abuse and trauma, I know firsthand how stories can transform lives. Other people’s stories gave me hope and understanding when I had none. And now, my words have the capacity to do the same for others. As a professional storyteller, I use my imagination to bring stories to life in engaging, informative, and entertaining ways. Whether it’s tackling the mental health needs of children and adults or delving into the world of myth, I use my words to guide others to recognize the power of their origin stories.
My writing career officially started in 2010, when my first book, Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students, was published. Born from a parenting workshop I’d taught for over ten years, the book blended my training as an educational psychologist with my personal experiences dealing with emotional intensity. Through this book, I wanted to help parents better understand what it means to live as an intense human.
Christine Fonseca’s ability to put things into a perspective that anyone can understand is AMAZING!
…a great voice for teen girls.
As the parent of two gifted children, the spouse of a gifted husband, and a gifted adult, I live with intensity every moment of every day. Over the years, I’ve come to understand that the intense behaviors that so often threw us off-balance were the very same passionate emotions that enable many of our greatest joys. Achieving equilibrium wasn’t about diminishing the intensity of the moments, but about changing our mindset about those moments and building stronger coping strategies for life’s curveballs.
Emotional Intensity was an instant success, resonating with parents who had experienced similar feelings to me. The book started my life as an author. As parents and educators began to reach out and ask me to teach the concepts in the book, my speaking and consulting business began. I started speaking at state and local conferences and coaching others to harness the power of their intensity. I also wrote more books – many more books.
In 2017, I explored additional ways I could help highly creative and intense adults and children. I started a small online coaching practice, developed courses that could blend my writing side with my psychology side, and grew my speaking events. Today, I think of myself as a storyteller, a thinker, and a changemaker. I am committed to using my training and experiences to show others how to harness their creative energy, explore truth, and embrace their intensities. My goal is to experience inspiration, connection, and transformation in my own life and help others do the same.
Christine Fonseca is a licensed educational psychologist, critically acclaimed author, and a nationally recognized speaker on topics related to educational psychology, mental health, giftedness, and using storytelling to heal past wounds.
Using her experience consulting and coaching educators and parents, Christine brings her expertise to Psychology Today, authoring the parenting blog Parenting for A New Generation. She has written self-help articles for Parents.com, Johnson & Johnson, Quiet Revolution, and Justine Magazine. Her appearances on the popular gifted education podcast, “Mind Matters,” have been some of their most downloaded episodes.
Christine uses her fictional stories to explore the more complex aspects of humanity through sweeping romances, Gothic thrillers, and psychological horror stories. As a trauma-impacted survivor, Christine believes in the power of storytelling as a key to healing past wounds. She delivers soul-centered writing workshops designed to help writers get into touch with their authentic voice and bring that to both nonfiction and fiction writing.
Christine’s critically acclaimed titles include Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students, The Caring Child, Letting Go: A Girl’s Guide to Breaking Free of Stress and Anxiety, and the action-packed Young Adult series, the Solomon Experiments.
Christine lives in Southern California with her husband and children.
"Having been a survivor of childhood trauma myself and not getting any help at that time, I wholeheartedly recommend this book to parents whose children have had traumatic experiences." - Amazon Review
The Caring Child: Raising Empathetic and Emotionally Intelligent Children is an ideal and impressively informative instructional guide that is unreservedly recommended as a core addition to personal, professional, community, college, and university library Contemporary Parenting collections" - Midwest Book Review
"Fonseca has made a great contribution to helping people understand the unique and too often unmet needs of gifted students." - Holly VanHouten, HUCK Center for Creative Learning
"Ideas in this resource provide avenues to opening effective and meaningful dialogue with students about issues, including self-esteem, healthy friendships, decision making, and academic learning preferences." - Gifted Child Today
"(Starred Review) Parents who have seen educators minimize their child's struggles as normal shyness, felt herded into one-size-fits-all solutions, or struggled to comprehend apparently nonsensical behavior from bright children will find this comprehensive resource grounding and practical." - Publisher's Weekly
"There's a bit of genius at play here as the author gives the gift of time to her readers - time to reflection and for de-stressing through the act of creating." - School Library Journal
"All [tips] are incredibly useful. As long as our educational system attaches labels to children, this title will serve as a useful tool for those designated as 'gifted'." - School Library Journal
"[The series is] a suspenseful thriller full of twists and turns around every bend. An action packed read that will have your heart slamming in your chest and your mind racing until the end." - Brooke DelVecchio